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  1. Ugh. I hate that. I have not experienced anything that extreme, but I did allow an old crochety sales lady to snap AT my child once–and my child was doing nothing wrong. It was a pre-emptive snap. And it shocked me so much I did nothing. My kids (ages 3 and 5 or so at the time) were big eyed and freaked out and I was shaking and I felt like an idiot for the longest time after. (((HUGS)))

    • I know that when my kids are around, I feel a lot more vulnerable. Instances when I normally would stand up for myself, instead I find myself slinking away like a dog with its tail between its legs, even if I did nothing wrong. Thank you for the support!

  2. Hattie

    I’m a newcomer to your blog, but I read this post with sympathy – its an issue I reflect a lot on. I don’t believe people are necessarily and better or worse than ever, but I do think boundaries of acceptable behaviour have been lowered for a number of reasons. The internet/texting/social media is amazing, but less and less often we don’t see the consequences/effect that our words have on others and as a result, people are less inhibited about what they say in “real life” – its not a good thing, I agree. A lot of people are so focused on their own immediate needs and happiness or their problems and stresses that they are too busy stamping their feet and pouting to interact appropriately with others. When I encounter courtesy and kindness and “the extra-mile” from strangers/customer service workers these days I gush with gratitude because it’s so unexpected. I tend to think the problem is compounded by the fact that I would hope I would, as I am sure you would, be the kind of person who treated others with care. Anyway, I just wanted to say I hope you are feeling a little better. If i helps all, I would probably have tried to show you some support at the time 🙂

    Diane

    • I keep telling myself that he clearly had something much worse going on in his life right now, that perhaps there was some urgent need that had to be fulfilled and that’s why he was so inconsiderate. I’m glad I didn’t engage, but it still is quite cruel. Thank you for the support.

  3. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Not sure what’s happening out there in the world but I agree, respect, manners, common courtesy whatever you want to call it is vanishing. I notice it most when driving, I actually drive the speed limit and every single day I get other drivers right up on my back bumper, they swerve, give me the finger, put on their brights etc. I have three sons, 21 year old twins and an 18 year old and even they are appalled at the other drivers and also intimidated by them. And I always hear people complain about young drivers, oh no, it’s a lot of older folks driving this way (and on their phones). So they are only thinking about themselves, not the driver in front of them (who could be a new driver and nervous) or the people out for a walk or bikeride or the animals crossing the street, just themselves and God forbid you get in their way…..
    Twice I have called the police and have no problem doing it, you shouldn’t have to be harrassed while filling up or driving with your children. That old man should be ashamed, same goes for the folks that just watched. But remember, you didn’t do anything wrong, that was all about him and his own misery and he took it out on you.

    • Road rage is quite scary–absolutely no consideration on the road anymore! It’s all me, me, me, and anybody who gets in the way will take the brunt of that force. You’re right, too, in that it’s not just young people–the elderly are, sadly, just as guilty.

      Thank you for the support!

  4. That’s insanity! I can’t believe how people behave with no regret whatsoever. They believe they’re in the right. Common decency and manners are absolutely out the window. I don’t know why people get so bent out of shape over small things. I’m so sorry that this happened to you!! What a terrible experience.

    • As I’ve calmed down, I’ve invented a sort of backstory for the man. Maybe his wife was in the hospital and he needed to fill the tank so he could get there. Maybe a friend just passed away and he was upset. Maybe he just received some terrible news about his health and his is emotionally charged. I was very upset about how I was treated–still am–but I also don’t know what he was going through at the time. Maybe his isn’t just a jerk. Then again, maybe he is…

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